Sojourner #006: The Golden Rule
A Conversation With Jay Freeman About The Golden Rule & The Best Way To Live
"So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the law and the prophets." (Matthew 7:12)
For this article, Sojourner Magazine takes you to the front lines of the fight to make an eternal impact in the lives of children across the Gadsden City School System, through the eyes of the man behind an anti-bullying initiative called "the Golden Rule" program.
We reached out to Jay Freeman, who graciously offered to share his perspective on the great works that God is doing among the nations, specifically regarding the work that is being done through the Golden Rule program.
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Q: Since you have taken the helm as Chief of Police at Gadsden State Community College, you've done things a little differently. Your actions are based on what best brings glory to God and best serves the community you protect; why do you believe that the best way to live is doing things God's way?
Since coming to faith in Christ, I've understood that my life and work are no longer about my own goals or desires but about serving Him and glorifying His name in all I do.
This has impacted every aspect of my leadership as Chief of Police. I strive to act with integrity, compassion, and humility, ensuring that every decision I make aligns with His will and serves those under my care. When I lead according to God's way, it provides clarity in decision-making, promotes trust within the community, and creates an environment where people feel valued and respected.
Ultimately, God’s way is the best way to live because it is rooted in love, fairness, and mercy — qualities that are essential for effectively serving and protecting our community.
As believers, every aspect of our lives should reflect the values and principles outlined in Scripture, especially the sacrifice of His Son, who died on the cross to forgive us for our sins.
Q: During your time as Chief of Police, you've implemented something called the Golden Rule program, what is that?
We've started the anti-bullying / Golden Rule program in the Gadsden City Schools, particularly with 5th graders. However, the plan is to implement this in other schools and at different grade levels.
It is designed to teach children the importance of treating others as they would want to be treated. This simple but powerful concept is key to promoting a culture of kindness, respect, and empathy, which are crucial to addressing issues like bullying and negative behavior in schools.
Bullying has become a major issue in our schools today. How is this program working to create a safe environment for all students and combat bullying?
Our anti-bullying campaign, centered around the Golden Rule, is designed to promote kindness, respect, and empathy. We believe that creating a safe environment starts with educating students about the importance of treating others the way they want to be treated.
Q: For those who may be unfamiliar, what is the Golden Rule, as laid out in Scripture?
The Golden Rule is found in Matthew 7:12, where Jesus says, "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets." It's a command that goes beyond just refraining from harm. It calls us to actively seek the good of others, treating people with the same care and respect that we desire for ourselves.
"For me, the Golden Rule is the greatest idea for all thinking humans and has been accepted as the best way to live. It's so right, when we analyze it we just know it is the best way to live. And it works!" - Peter Gregerson
Q: There is actually a book that summarizes and lays out the Golden Rule and the "best way to live", could you share about it?
Yes, Peter Gregerson's book The Golden Rule: The Best Way to Live really captures the essence of the Golden Rule. It breaks down the principles of living in a way that honors others, emphasizing the idea that the best way to live is to follow this Biblical principle. It has been a driving source in helping shape our program's curriculum and the anti-bullying initiative.
The Golden Rule is a simple yet powerful principle. It encourages empathy and challenges students to put themselves in others’ shoes. When students understand the impact their actions have on others, they foster compassion and discourage harmful behavior. This principle builds a culture of mutual respect, where students not only avoid bullying but also actively uplift their peers. Healthy relationships are built on trust and kindness, and the Golden Rule lays the foundation for that.
Q: What specifically drove you to start the Golden Rule program, what need did you see that was being left unaddressed?
In my role, I've seen how negative behaviors like bullying can deeply affect students, both emotionally and academically. I realized there was a need for something more than just discipline; we needed to address the root of these issues by teaching children how to respect and care for one another. The Golden Rule program was developed as a proactive approach to instill these values early on, before these behaviors become habitual.
"I realized there was a need for something more than just discipline; we needed to address the root of these issues by teaching children how to respect and care for one another."
Q: Why do you believe it is so important to combat bullying in our schools today?
Bullying can have devastating effects on a child’s emotional, mental, and physical well-being and disrupt their ability to learn and grow. Schools are meant to be safe spaces where children thrive academically and socially. If we allow bullying to persist, it undermines the foundation of education.
By addressing it head-on, we protect our students' well-being and create an environment where respect, kindness, and inclusion become the standard. This prepares students to contribute positively to society as they grow.
Q: For the children in our communities who experience bullying, it can be easy for them to feel alone. What message do you have for those children?
You are not alone, and we are here for you.
It is essential to know that what’s happening is not your fault and that there are people who care about you and are ready to help. Whether it is a trusted adult, a school counselor, or one of our officers, we are here to listen and support you. It is so important to speak up, and please remember that your voice matters. Your courage can help stop the bullying, not only for yourself but also for others.
It may feel overwhelming now, but there is hope.
You have people who care about you – your family, teachers, and friends – and we are committed to helping you through this. Don’t give up. Reach out to someone you trust.
You are stronger than you realize, and with the right support, things can get better. Remember that the difficulties you’re facing now do not define your worth, and there are brighter days ahead.
You matter, and we are standing with you.
Q: Why do you believe that children need to learn Biblical principles and values?
Biblical principles provide a moral foundation that helps guide children as they grow into adulthood. These values teach them how to love others, act with integrity, and make wise decisions. In a world that often promotes selfishness and division, Biblical values offer a path to unity, peace, and fulfillment.
Q: This is not something that you have accomplished on your own, who has been instrumental in bringing this program together?
The success of this program has been a collective effort. The support of the City of Gadsden, the Gadsden Board of Education, the Gadsden Police Department, local school officials, teachers, and community members has been vital.
Without their partnership and enthusiasm, we wouldn't have been able to reach so many students. I also want to acknowledge God's guidance in bringing the right people and resources together to make this happen.
Q: How has your family supported you in this endeavor, what role do they play in all of this?
My family has been incredibly supportive throughout this journey. My Grandparents have had a tremendous impact on my life. My Grandfather wrote the book "The Golden Rule" (The Best Way To Live).
My Grandmother passed away on September 27th, 2024, and she lived by these principles every day. She would take us to deliver lunches to less fortunate elderly or home-bound individuals, which significantly impacted my life.
My wife and daughters have always encouraged me to follow where God leads, and they've been a source of strength and inspiration. My daughters, being in the school system themselves, understand firsthand the importance of this program, which makes their support even more meaningful.
Q: Have you noticed any changes in the lives of students and their communities since you started the program?
Absolutely. We've seen students become more mindful of how they treat their peers. Teachers have reported a decrease in bullying incidents, and parents have shared stories of how their children are more considerate at home. It is rewarding to see the impact this program is having, not just in the schools but within the community as well.
"It's rewarding to see the impact this program is having, not just in the schools but within the community as well."
Q: Who is responsible for teaching this material to the children?
Community members and leaders, including myself, teach the program. We visit the schools, present the material, and engage with the students in discussions.
Our program combines education, engagement, and enforcement. Through classroom visits and presentations, we teach students about the impact of bullying and how to practice empathy.
Officers actively engage with students, building relationships so that they feel comfortable reporting bullying. It's important for them to see law enforcement as a positive influence in their lives, someone they can trust and look up to. We collaborate with school staff to ensure there are clear protocols in place for handling bullying incidents swiftly and effectively.
Additionally, our program promotes positive behavior by recognizing students who demonstrate kindness and respect, reinforcing the values of the Golden Rule.
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| Peter Gregerson speaking at Oscar W. Adams Elementary School |
Q: How can parents engage in anti-bullying efforts at home?
Parents play a crucial role in the fight against bullying. Parents can model respectful behavior at home and have regular conversations with their children about kindness, empathy, and the importance of speaking up when they see or experience bullying.
Listening to children without judgment is also essential, making them feel comfortable sharing their experiences. Monitoring social media and online activity, especially in today's digital age, helps prevent cyberbullying. When children feel heard and supported by their parents, they are more likely to open up about the challenges they face.
Q: If children see signs of bullying, what should they do? If parents believe that their child is being bullied, what actions should they take? How can we address these issues before it is too late?
If children witness bullying, the most important thing is not to stay silent. They should tell a trusted adult – whether that’s a teacher, counselor, or police officer – as soon as possible. Standing up for a peer when it’s safe can also make a difference, showing the bully that their behavior is unacceptable.
For parents who suspect their child is being bullied, the first step is to have a calm and open conversation with their child, validating their feelings. Then, parents should connect with school staff and work collaboratively to address the situation.
Addressing these issues early is key – the sooner we intervene, the more effectively we can prevent harm and guide students toward healthier interactions.
Q: What kind of response are you getting from the community, parents, and teachers?
The response has been overwhelmingly positive. Parents appreciate that we're teaching their children values that will serve them well in life. Teachers are grateful for the additional support in fostering a respectful and safe environment. And the community has embraced the program, seeing it as an investment in our children's future.
Q: Above all, what do you hope comes out of this program?
I hope the students take these lessons to heart and carry them with them throughout their lives. I want them to be the kind of people who stand up for what is right, treat others with kindness, and create a positive ripple effect in their communities.
Q: None of this work is easy. What encourages you to press on in the midst of difficulty and trial?
My faith in Christ is what keeps me going. I know that the work we're doing is important and that it's making a difference. Even when challenges arise, I trust that God is guiding me and providing the strength to continue.
Q: In the time since the Golden Rule program was first implemented, how have you seen the Lord at work?
I have witnessed the Lord working in incredible ways, from the transformation of students to the unity being created among teachers, parents, and law enforcement. It’s amazing to see how God is using this program to tackle bullying and to plant seeds of kindness and love that will thrive for years to come.
"It’s amazing to see how God is using this program to tackle bullying and to plant seeds of kindness and love that will thrive for years to come."
Q: How can people support the work that is being done through the Golden Rule Program?
People can support the program by spreading the word and encouraging their local schools to get involved. We also welcome volunteers and partnerships from community organizations that want to help. Above all, we ask for continued prayers for the students, the schools, and our team as we carry out this mission.
Q: What are ways that people can pray for you and your team as you continue to teach the program?
Pray for wisdom, strength, and perseverance as we continue to teach and expand the program. Pray that the hearts of the students will be open to the message and that it will take root in their lives. And pray for protection over the officers and teachers involved as they pour into these children.
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About the Author:
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| Jay Freeman with his grandparents, Peter and Janet Gregerson. |
Jay Freeman serves as the Chief of Police & Public Safety at Gadsden State Community College, and as an Etowah County Board of Education Board member (Place #5). He is happily married to his wife, Laura. They have three children, and attend Church of the Highlands in Gadsden.
Editor's Note:
If this article impacted you, please consider supporting the ongoing work that is being done in the schools through the Golden Rule program. Pray in earnest for those who are on the front lines of this effort, and pray for the children who are being taught these great truths.
Copies of Mr. Gregerson's book, The Golden Rule, are available for purchase at the link below, or here. Follow the Gadsden State Police Department page on Facebook to learn more about the Golden Rule program.
Please join us in praying for the Freeman family as they celebrate the life of Jay's grandmother, Janet Gregerson. After almost 93 years, Mrs. Gregerson entered into the glorious presence of the Lord. She leaves behind her husband, Peter, and a large, loving family.
In Romans 8:29, the Apostle Paul explains that the believer is foreknown, predestined, called, justified, and glorified by God. In the midst of great grief, we rejoice all the more in knowing that because of the great gift of God in Christ Jesus our Lord, Mrs. Gregerson has indeed been glorified, receiving the crown of life. Her legacy continues to impact the lives of so many, and we are profoundly thankful for that.
Lastly, I'd like to extend a special thank you to Jay Freeman for his willingness to share this story of how the Golden Rule is changing our community. Keep him in your prayers as he endeavors to lead and serve this place we call home, by the grace of God - for the glory of God.
May God be praised.
Jake Rogers, Editor-In-Chief, Sojourner Magazine
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Article Links:
The Golden Rule (The Best Way to Live), by Peter Gregerson
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